Most of you that know me know I’ve been single for most of my adult life. It’s tough dating nowadays. Social media and online dating has pretty much ruined any chance for people to engage in normal dating interactions and it totally sucks.
There’s no romance in anything anymore. All of a sudden men don’t think they need to try and impress a woman. And ladies… that goes for you too. You should be equally trying to impress them when you’re starting out as they are trying to impress you. Put on some make-up, get dressed up and put in a little extra effort from you day-to-day routines. Men… when did it become okay for you to make sexual advances at a woman before you even say hello? There was a time when you had to work for it.
And don’t think I’m being a prude because I’m not. I’m 30 years old. I know how this works, but if you’re going to be ballsy enough to bring up sex on a first date, at least work for it a little bit. Don’t make a girl feel like absolute trash from the moment you interact with her and don’t get upset when she turns you down. Maybe she’s not into just hooking up and has some self respect to not be interested in that right away.
What happened to the romance? When men used to actually pick a girl up and it took her a while to get ready because she was nervous and excited for a date. What happened to holding open doors for women and giving them your coat when it was cold outside?
Online dating sites have turned the dating world into a cesspool of people who aren’t into any real connection which sucks. And I’m 30 so I’m definitely not going out to bars and meeting people there. Hell I didn’t even like doing that when I was in my early 20s, never mind now.
Occasionally you actually start talking to someone that you are enjoying getting to know and then you’re hit with this whole “ghosting” thing that happens nowadays. When did it become okay to completely ignore another human being in all formats? How long does it actually take to just send a text message saying “Hey sorry. I’ve enjoyed getting to know you a bit but I just don’t think it’s going to work out. No hard feelings.” What’s so wrong with that?
Or you’re chatting with someone and they inevitably find some way to fuck it up and remove all the romance. Tell me something guys… do you really think it’s a good idea when you’re going to take a girl out on a date and they ask you what the plan is to tell them “you haven’t really thought about it”. Just what every girl wants to hear. That you’re putting no effort into wanting to meet her. At least if you haven’t thought about it lie. Say “I have a couple ideas but I want to know what you think is fun”. That way she can at least give you a couple ideas.
Come on guys. Step it up! Let’s get back to the days where romance bloomed and girls… put in some effort. We can’t completely leave it up to the men. We have to at least show some interest.
Let’s bring back the romance!